You've been through almost all the internet, tried several online
swingers clubs and finally, found a nice couple (or a few couples). Now what?
You may feel the "first date feeling" but, don't
panic; remember, you want to cause a good impression on the other swinging
couple and at the same time try to make things work.
Before your date
You may want to start by meeting swingers in a non-sexual
date. Even if you first meet in a erotic chat room or maybe a swinger party
hosted by somebody, it is good to see people in their normal life.
Agree in the best and most comfortable place for both
swinger couples to meet. Try to choose a place where you can talk in a free
way without unwanted people listening to you.
The day of your date
Okay, it is time to look as you never did before. For men,
dress shoes and pants will do the job but, try to wear a nice shirt also. If
the resturaut is some sort of upscale it will be alright to wear a jacket or a
tie. Women, remember to impress. Show what you have but without being too
provocative (or vulgar). However, depending on where you are going to, you
should decide what fits the most.
Don't forget to take a shower, and put some cologne on. Women can also choose some nice jewelry and make up for the night.
Men, no
facial hair please unless it really looks cool on you. Arrive on time.
Once arrived your date
First of all a exchange greetings, sit down and order your
drinks. Some small talk. It is usual to talk about everyday things hobbies,
jobs, homes, families, etc. If there is something you don't want to talk about,
there's no why doing it but let others know about it.
Silence is not a good startup for swinging relationships. In
the same way talking only when drunk is not neither. Be careful with the
alcohol when first meeting another swinger couple.
If this swinger couple is for you, you will feel it. Since
swingers are friends, not strangers, you will know if things are going well or
not. If at any moment you feel really uncomfortable be polite and let the other
singnig couple you don't want to go any further.
If you think it is alright to keep on going with the date
It is time start communicating openly and widely. If you
both are feeling this swinger couple you are dating with is really what you
wanted, talk about it. Start talking about things you like in a swinging
relationship. After this, you can agree a more intimate encounter.
You need to settle some rules about protection, like the use
of condoms and anticonceptive methods for all of you. You need to be honest and
ask for honestity also since it is your health and your mate's one what you are
talking about.
When everything is clear for all and every one agrees... it
is time to have fun.